True and productive use of "No"
In today's worlds, there is a word getting popular among the words like, sorry and please and that word is 'No'.
"No" is a word that has been associated in many ways with our daily life. We can use it in both positive and negative ways in our life, we can reduce our problems. This word can be used to spoil some things, or can be used to create some things. Lets first see how
it can be used to create a positive impact. Finding goodness in good temperament, glow on face, chirping sounds of the birds, joyous conversations, and even in every trouble / distress, problem is the identification of positive energy. Just because of shyness or social awkwardness or shame or without thinking of what can be achieved and abruptly refusing to accept does not help at all with anything.
Let me explain with a story of an unemployed person. For a very long time, that person did not get any job, then one day he bought gram and, sadly, sitting on the banks of the sea, started thinking about how he is going to manage all the expenses without money. As he was thinking to himself, he saw an heron. Heron grabs the fish in the beak and throws it in the air and then eats in the beak. The person found it very fun and he began doing the same thing. He observed how the heron spreads his wings while catching the fish in beak. just like that, he also started trying to catch the gram in the mouth. Within a short time, he was able to do it perfectly.
Now he started practicing different things to catch with his mouth. While practicing, he became so good that he would throw the sword in the air and catch it in the mouth. He started earning money by showing the same trick to the people. One day a man praised his show and asked the name of his mentor. The person thought that if he would tell that his mentor is a heron then all would make fun of him. He totally denied by saying "I have no Guru". Then the person said that if you lie about your mentor and you still perform then you will bear the loss, then again he replied by saying the same thing that I have no guru, and then he went on to perform. When he threw the sword in the air, he could not catch it with his mouth. He tried many times but he couldn't do it. If he had proudly said that heron is my guru, I have learned this art from a heron, and there is no shame. The only thing which stopped him was what will people say and he might lose his viewership.
Since childhood, we have been told to not touch some things, to not eat those things, to not go to certain places. By listening to negative words like "no, do not, refuse to, deny" at all times, our subconscious repeats most of those words. This results in the increase of exploitative use of "no" in our life.
It is necessary to make some changes to overcome this negativity.
1) How many times have the word "no" been used throughout the day?
Try to use less "no" the next day.
2) Use the word "maybe" instead of "no" as far as possible.
3) Before refusing any work / thing, think about if it is necessary to refuse? Can it be beneficial?
The work that can be done after some time or the thing which can be said later, is left to refuse
4) Change your conversation into positive conversation and end on the same note as well.
5) A different phrase should be used everytime instead of bluntly saying no. Something like these can be used, "let's see, will let you know whatever happens, See how things turn out, I have different priorities, will let you know, maybe, can't promise it will happen, can't say but let's be optimistic".
6) There are some things whose answers should be clear, then "yes" or "no" is necessary and their answer should be clearly stated in "yes" or "no"
7) Those things which do not have an answer should be replied with a "no"
8) By changing the way we talk, we can bring happiness around us
9) There is nothing difficult when it comes to correcting your mistake. In some cases, it will start to feel cheerful in practice.
10) There is nothing wrong in saying "no" where its needed, just use it in a limited manner.
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